Challenge Yourself

There is a difference between goals and challenges. Goals are the more formal things we want to do or achieve in our personal and business life. They are the things we need to do to succeed. It could be get a degree. Do a training program. It might be setting financial goals. Goals are usually more complex than challenges. They could have multiple steps. They might require a complex plan for achieving them. Overcoming my speaking anxiety was a goal I set for myself several years ago. Achieving that goal has had a tremendous impact on my life. Goals are the things we have to do in order to succeed.

Challenges are the things we want to do. They could be related to improving our quality of life, achieving new skills, etc. I am learning to play the fiddle. It is an instrument that has been played at least 3 generations of my family. It is not something that I have to do. It is something that I want to do. I am gleaning a lot of satisfaction as I gradually improve. Another instrument I would like to learn is the mandolin and I would like to do art lessons. These are great examples of things I would like to do. I will decide when I can fit them into my life. They don’t take priority over my goals. My challenges add joy and contentment to my life.

Do you have something that you want to do. Then challenge yourself to do it.

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Master Your Timing – Part 2

In Master Your Timing Part 1 I spoke about the importance of a speaker or presenter to stay true to their time allocation. However there will be situations that occur where you will find yourself running out of time. You know that you will go over. It could be a result of audience interaction. It could be your first time delivering the material and you underestimated the time required. In these situations it is important that you let the audience know well in advance and ask for their permission to address it.

There are a couple of things to keep in mind when you do this. First it shouldn’t be an exorbitant amount of time, 10 – 15 minutes maximum. If you require more than that you should consider setting up a followup session to finish the material. If you do get their permission remember that there may still be participants that have other commitments and have to go at the original finish time. Make sure that you allow them to exit gracefully. Give them permission to leave when the original time is up. This should be announced to the group. For example: If any of you are unable to stay on for the extra time please feel free to leave at the scheduled time.

It is their time, not yours, so it is important that you honour it.

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Master Your Timing – Part 1

An important consideration for any speaker or presenter is to stay true to their time allocation. Whether the time allocation is set by you or an event organizer you must ensure that you honour that timing. If you finish too early your audience may perceive you as being ill prepared and not living up to their expectations. We didn’t have enough material to fill the full time slot.

If you finish late the impacts can be even greater. When we go over on our time we run the risk of losing their full attention at a critical part of your speech or presentation; the close. When we go over the audience begins to focus on the time and not the message. The longer we go over the more intense the focus on time will be.

Knowing our material well and having a good sense of timing are key to successful speeches and presentations. If you have a choice between finishing a couple of minutes early or a couple of minutes late it is better to finish a couple of minutes early.

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Setting Goals

It is that time of year again where we should make sure that we take time to reflect on what we want to accomplish in the coming year. This post is not about New Year’s resolutions. I am not a fan of resolutions. I am a fan of setting realistic goals for the things we want to achieve. What do you want to achieve in 2013.

It has been proven over and over again that individuals who document their goals have a much greater chance of achieving them. So write your goals down and refer to them daily so that they stay top of mind. This will keep them visible. However you have to take steps to act on them. What is your plan for achieving them? Are you giving them the priority they require?

Goals without actionable plans are merely dreams.

Happy New Year everyone. May 2013 be your best year yet!

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Ink it when you think it

A few years ago I had the privilege to attend a workshop conducted by Sam Horn at the CAPS (Canadian Association of Professional Speakers) in Toronto. During the workshop Sam talked about a concept she called “Ink It When You Think It”. This concept really resonated with me because I had, on many occasions, heard or seen a quote, an idea, an image, a book title, etc that caught my attention. However when I tried to remember them, even a short time later, they were gone from my memory. So the idea of writing it down as soon as possible really appealed to me. However, I didn’t have a solution for how I would do that.

Five months later our CAPS President, David Gouthro, did a workshop for CAPS Atlantic Chapter. One of things he provided was a small notebook that fit perfectly into my shirt pocket. I now had a way to ‘ink when it when I thought it’. I now have several of these note books and I have captured hundreds of ideas. I usually transfer them to my computer on a monthly basis.

Taking the concept of “Ink it when you think it” and pairing it with a tool, the small note book, created a powerful tool that can be beneficial to any speaker.

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Using Personal Stories in Your Speech or Presentation

Using personal stories has made my speeches and presentations more memorable and has allowed me to engage my audiences in a more intimate way. We all have personal stories. They happen to us everyday. Some are more significant and meaningful than others. I encourage you to reflect on the stories that you have. Create an inventory of them using Excel or Word. Otherwise you run the risk of forgetting about them.

Check out your list of stories from time to time. Think about the speeches, presentations and situations where you might be able to use them. The magic of personal stories is that they are your stories. Only you can tell them because they happened to you or you observed them personally.

Next time you are asked to speak consider using stories to make your presentation more entertaining and get your point across more effectively.

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A Definition of Communication

I have a definition of communication that I use in all my public speaking training. There are multiple definitions that I could use. I chose this one. It gets everybody on the same understanding of what oral communication is. The definition is:

Communication is the giving and receiving of information, ideas and attitudes.

Most people will pick up on the fact that it is a giving and receiving process and most will acknowledge that we exchange ideas and information. Many will miss the fact that we also exchange attitudes when we communicate. We do that through our nonverbal message. Through our facial expression, body language, and our gestures. We also do it tone of voice. So it is important that we ensure that these are in synch with our message.

While we acknowledge that communication is a giving and receiving process most of us don’t put enough emphasis on the receiving portion. This is particularly true when we are speaking to a group of people. Depending on the size, most audiences will communicate solely by nonverbal. In these situations we have to condition ourselves to listen with our eyes in order to get the messages they are sending.

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Rehearse Your Speech or Presentation with Video

Because of the proliferation of digital cameras it is easier than ever to capture video of ourselves while rehearsing our speech or presentation. Video of ourselves speaking is a powerful tool to help us refine and grow our speaking style. It will seem awkward at first but as you become more comfortable with it you will also become more confident as a speaker.

Don’t worry about the sound and video quality starting out. If you are using video to rehearse a speech or presentation chances are you are only sharing it with a close family member or friend. Maybe you are not comfortable yet doing that. It’s okay. The important thing is that you leverage the learning opportunity that video offers to develop your confidence and your unique style. As long as you can see and hear yourself it will still be a valuable learning tool.

Some people find speaking to a camera even more intimidating than speaking to a live audience. You can use this to your advantage. Push yourself to do it. You can’t fail. There is only you. No one else gets to see it unless you let them.

The last thing I would like to stress is don’t view your video with a critical eye. View it with a constructive eye. Many of us have a tendency to focus on what we perceive as our flaws. These could be key things that contribute to your unique speaking style. Have an open mind.

Almost every household has at least one video camera. Most have several. Video is an important tool in your Speaker’s Tool Box.

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Dealing with Public Speaking Mistakes and Bloopers

If you speak publicly you will inevitably make a mistake or experience a blooper. If it hasn’t happened yet, it will. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be a show stopper if dealt with properly.

I get some of my best material and content when I make a mistake. I have learned, with time, not to react negatively to these. Instead I embrace them as an opportunity to show my personality. They are frequently a good source of spontaneous humour. I don’t do them on purpose and I don’t look for mistakes to happen. This make my response to them that much more genuine and effective.

The next time you experience a mistake or blooper don’t react negatively to it. Use it as an opportunity enhance your unique style.

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How to Introduce a Speaker

There are many situations where you might be required to formally introduce another person. It could be an association function, a family wedding, or a workplace activity.

I have witnessed many variations of introductions. Some very short with little or no information to the other extreme where there is too much information. The introduction should only be about a minute and should highlight aspects about the speaker that are relevant to the function and the audience.

I recommend letting the speaker know what you plan to say in your introduction. That way there are no surprises. The speaker may want to make some changes. Many speaker will provide their own introductions. If they do and they are longer than you feel is appropriate don’t be shy about cutting out aspects that aren’t relevant to the function. It is still good practice to let the speaker know what you have removed and why.

A well thought out and prepared introduction can make you look very professional.

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