Understanding Speaking Anxiety – Beam Analogy

Why do we have such a strong fear of speaking in public? I think we have a better chance of answering this question if we understand what drives our fear.

In this video I use a beam analogy to help you understand the dynamics at play when speaking anxiety takes hold on us. It is not unlike having a fear of heights. So if we understand one we understand the other.

This analogy helps you determine is the fear of speaking worth the risk of actually doing it. The risk you face is that your anxiety will manifest itself in some strange and bazar way. I have been learning, training and coaching public speaking for over 20 years and I have never seen anyone die from public speaking and I have never seen anyone faint. So determine what is the worse that can happen to you. Accept and get on with doing it.

Regardless of how much anxiety you have, the reality is that to get past it you have to get up and speak. No one else can do it for you.

For those that decide yes, the journey to managing their speaking anxiety is well underway.

Now go out and Make Your Voice Heard!

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You’re Not Alone With Speaking Anxiety

The Book of Lists has identified, on a couple occasions, that the fear of speaking outranks the fear of death by as much as 2 to 1. So it should be no great surprise that a lot of people are anxious about public speaking.

In this post I share a snippet of my personal journey. About 25 years ago I was working as a Sales Representative with a large Computer Sales company. I was required to give presentations to executive teams and corporate boards 1-2 times a week. Every time I got up to speak I would get a knot in my stomach and it didn’t go away until I sat down. I was so uncomfortable with the public speaking aspect of my job that I left the company.

Despite my anxiety I was successful at my job. I made my quota in the first year, was named Rookie of the Year, and my wife and I were sent on an all expenses paid trip to Vancouver for a week. I was good at my job but I was not happy at my job.

I took a job with the local telephone company. A couple of months later my new manager invited me to attend a Toastmasters meeting. That was the beginning of my journey to manage my speaking anxiety.

Through Toastmasters I learned that there was much more to public speaking than spitting out words then sitting down. There are so many things to consider; eye contact, vocal variety, gestures & body language, facial expression and so much more.

I went through the entire Toastmasters program and attained their highest designation, DTM (Distinguished Toastmaster.

For as long as I can remember I have wanted to own my own business. I realized one of my biggest dreams, having my own business, by overcoming one of my biggest fears, speaking in public. I find it ironic that the business is as a professional speaker and I get to help others fast-track their journey. How cool is that?

Never think that you can’t do it. It’s in you to do it!

Now go out and Make Your Voice Heard!

Want to learn the 5 Tools (you already have) to become a confident, engaging and effective speaker? Click the link for FREE video training. The Speaker’s Tool Box

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How Are You Making Your Voice Heard

“How Are You Making Your Voice Heard?”

My area of expertise is oral communication skills, public speaking and presentations, one on one or one on a thousand. So making your voice heard orally is a big part of what I teach and coach. However speaking is not the only way that we make our voices heard.

We do it in a multitude of ways. In my video I talk about meeting with a classmate many years during coffee break at the community college we were attending. She was going through a difficult period and really needed someone to talk to. I became that someone. The reality was that she did most of the talking I listened.

When the semester was over she gave me a newspaper clipping that had the verse ‘A Smile’ on it. She told me that the verse reminder her of me and how I had helped her through a difficult time in her life.

I didn’t realize it at the time. I made my voice hear simply by listening.

How are you making your voice heard?

Now go out and Make Your Voice Heard!

Want to learn the 5 Tools (you already have) to become a confident, engaging and effective speaker? Click the link for FREE video training. The Speaker’s Tool Box

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Leverage Video to Manage Your Speaking Anxiety

Many of us are intimidated by video cameras. Some are more nervous speaking to the camera than they are speaking to a live audience. We can use this fact to our advantage. With the proliferation of video cameras and smart phones with video capability most households have multiple video devices. You can buy a small video adapter to mount your smart phone to any standard tripod base. They cost less than $20.

You don’t need a studio setup with lights, microphones, etc to do it. You can lean your smart phone against something on your dresser and record.

Once you have your recording view it with a constructive eye, not a critical eye. Don’t forget to look for your strengths. Identify the things that you do well, that make your style unique and focus on leveraging them in future speeches.

Video is one of the more powerful tools available for overcoming your anxiety and developing your unique speaking style.

Now go out and Make Your Voice Heard!

Want to learn the 5 Tools (you already have) to become a confident, engaging and effective speaker? Click the link for FREE video training. The Speaker’s Tool Box

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Using Eye Contact Effectively

Engaging our audience can be a challenge for many speakers and presenters. One of the most effective tools that we have in our Speaker’s Tool Box to do that is eye contact. Learning good eye contact techniques can be a game changer for a speaker/presenter.

Good eye contact techniques can keep your audience engaged throughout your presentation. There a couple of things to keep in mind. you don’t want to favour one part of the audience over another and you certainly don’t want to focus too much on any one person. Your eye contact should be balanced across the entire audience. Scan from left to right, front to rear and alternate. As you scan pause for a second and focus on an individual. If you are speaking to a large audience others around that person will think you are looking at them. This will create the perception of eye contact. If your audience is large it will be impossible to make eye contact with everyone. So it is important that you create the perception.

Some audience members will drift from time to time. Eye contact is an effective way to bring them back into your conversation. This is a time when you would attempt to make eye contact with a specific individual and it may require a couple of seconds. It is important that you don’t spend too long and risk losing other audience members. Once eye contact is established you know they are back into your presentation.

Are you leveraging this power tool?

Now go out and Make Your Voice Heard!

Want to learn the 5 Tools (you already have) to become a confident, engaging and effective speaker? Click the link for FREE video training. The Speaker’s Tool Box

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Effective Use of the Pause

“It’s not the notes that make the music. It’s the pause between the notes.” Proper use of the pause can make your speech or presentation come alive. It can give it a uniqueness and help your audience to understand your message. At the same time it allows you the opportunity to observe your audience to determine if they are getting your message or not. It lets you “listen with your eyes”.

The pause is absolutely critical for story telling and in particular telling jokes. A well placed pause can make your message more memorable. A pause after telling a joke or sharing a piece of anecdotal material will allow your audience the opportunity to laugh and or reflect. It will allow you the opportunity to take the non-verbal feedback and let you decide what you will say next next and how you will say it.

If you’re not thinking of the pause when you speak you are missing a very important tool in your Speaker’s Tool Box.

Now go out and Make Your Voice Heard!

Want to learn the 5 Tools (you already have) to become a confident, engaging and effective speaker? Click the link for FREE video training. The Speaker’s Tool Box

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Impact of New Technology

New technologies are being introduced every day. It is impossible for us to stay informed on all of them. Attending conventions and live events related to our area of expertise is a great way to stay informed on new technologies that impact on our industry. These technologies can simplify complex tasks, introduce new functionality, expand our reach and more. It’s important to stay on top of our research, otherwise it is easy to become overwhelmed.

The new technologies are making it easier for us to connect with our target markets in ways that weren’t possible just a few years ago. For me personally, I rely on video. Video is how I communicate my message to my target audience. Just a few years ago I would had to carry a sports bag full of equipment; video camera, tripods (stand-up & table top), microphone and cable, weights to anchor the tripod in wind, etc). Today I can go anywhere and shoot video with just my iPhone and a selfie stick. I still have my indoor studio with professional lighting and sound so I have a lot more flexibility.

Before you decide on what technologies are right for you determine exactly what you do (core expertise), who you do it for (target market) then select the technologies that will let you communicate to them effectively.

Now go out and Make Your Voice Heard!

Want to learn the 5 Tools (you already have) to become a confident, engaging and effective speaker? Click the link for FREE video training. The Speaker’s Tool Box

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Using Humour in Your Speech or Presentation

Humour can really set you apart from the norm. It can bring life to your presentation. The good news is that you don’t need to be a stand up comic to make humour work in your speech or presentation. It is a great way to keep and retain audience attention. If they are laughing you know they are listening.

Everyone appreciates a good laugh. I use humour in just about every presentation I give. Often it os subtle little quips that are usually unplanned and in the moment. Other times it’s a humorous story and sometimes it is actually a joke. In all situations I make sure that it is supporting my message and not detracting from it. In order to do this I will frequently setup the story or joke to help the audience link it to the message I am drawing attention to.

It does take time to develop a natural style. Everyone is different. Be patient with yourself. Experiment and figure out what works for you. All of the best speakers have humour as an integral part of their material.

Humour is an effective way to make your presentation more interesting and memorable.

It’s one of the tools in your Speaker’s Tool Box

Now go out and Make Your Voice Heard!

Want to learn the 5 Tools (you already have) to become a confident, engaging and effective speaker? Click the link for FREE video training. The Speaker’s Tool Box

I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Leave me a comment or suggest a topic for a future blog.

Two Speaking Challenges

Through my coaching program I have seen two consistent challenges that my clients deal with when it comes to public speaking. The first one is a lack of confidence and the second is an inability to let their personality come through in their public speaking.

It takes time to attain true confidence when speaking in public. You have to speak as often as you possibly can so that you can become more comfortable and confident. One thing you can do, from the start, is focus on creating the perception of confidence. This can be done in many ways. It can be done by leveraging the tools that you have available in your Speaker’ Tool Box. In particular use your body language, gestures, facial expression and general posture to convey a sense of confidence. Don’t draw unnecessary attention to your nervousness by saying things like “I am really nervous” or “this is my first time speaking in public” and don’t apologize to the audience ie “I am sorry I am not very comfortable with this”. these types of statements only serve to draw attention to your nervousness. In these situations it is better to be like the duck; calm and collected on the surface and paddling like the devil underneath.

The second challenge is letting your personality come through in your speaking. I am always encouraging my coaching clients to let their personality show when they speak and I always will draw attention to the times and moments when they do so that the behaviour is reinforced. Some of the best ways to show personality is by using facial expression and vocal variety. Personality could be revealed in other ways. It could be that you have a unique sense of humour or just a sense of humour. If you do let that show. Don’t let it dominate, however leverage it to help develop your unique style.

Now go out and Make Your Voice Heard!

If you are dealing with a large audience then it is likely that vast majority of your audience’ communication will be at the non-verbal level.

Getting Started with Video

The use of video on the internet has exploded! There are a lot of factors to consider; type of camera, microphone, cables, adapters, software editing, posting to the web. The list is quite long and the choices can be overwhelming. The best thing to do is get started. Don’t try to learn everything before you start. Start and learn as you go.

Many of us are timid about putting ourselves ‘out there’. While there is potential for hundreds or thousands to view your video, the reality is that at the start there will only be a handful of viewers. Your initial videos will feel awkward and you may be critical of them. Some of them may surprise you. When I look back on the videos I posted a couple of years ago I am sometimes pleasantly surprised at the quality of the video and the message. Sometimes we can be our own worse critics.

When it comes to equipment you don’t need to be sophisticated. Todays technology makes it so easy to shoot good quality video. If you have a smart phone you are good to go. Most smart phones shoot at 720p or 1080p. Both are acceptable HD quality. At a bare minimum you can hold the camera out with your arm and shoot your video message. If you want to improve on that buy a selfie stick. You can purchase one for less than $10. You can purchase a tripod and adapter for less than $40.

If you are shooting your video outdoors one thing you will need to consider is wind. Wind noise can obliterate your audio. There are options for dealing with that and they can be pricey.

If you are shooting your video indoors lighting will be a consideration. Make sure you have sufficient light. Shooting in poor lighting situations will compromise your video quality.

The real secret is to start now with what you have. You will be amazed by how much you will learn from ‘just doing it’.

Now go out and Make Your Voice Heard!

Want to learn the 5 Tools (you already have) to become a confident, engaging and effective speaker? Click the link for FREE video training. The Speaker’s Tool Box

I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Leave me a comment or suggest a topic for a future blog.